Family is understandably important, but they do not always understand their importance.
As the saying goes, “You can’t live with them, and you can’t live without them.”
Well, you could. But your life would be much less, ah colorful.
Spending the last month traveling abroad in search of sharing boleros and seeking music, during the holiday season, I not only abandoned my family, (while seeking other family members, I might add) but was ofttimes vacationing with everyone else’s family. Ay, Dios mio!
To add fuel to the proverbial yuletide fire, I spent Christmas, New Year’s Eve AND my birthday while traveling abroad. And although I was taken out for a sumptuous dinner in Vigo, Spain, by a dear friend (and her son, naturally), I returned home to a conspicuous lack of birthday phone messages by a couple of family members.
Oh let me pause for just a moment to recollect what a free spirit I am. My unfettered pop philosophy is that once you are connected to a person, you’ve no need to call them on a regular basis.
If you speak with them once a month, or only once in your lifetime, you are always connected in spirit. This works quite well in theory, but if everyone doesn’t have the same perspective, what then?
My closest friends have all experienced this free flowing concept that works well for me, and they still maintain their love and understanding for who I am. Those who don’t understand, well I fret about it a lot, then try my best to explain this theory. I realize that it must be trying at times to others.
Some family members also have a hard time adjusting to this laissez faire attitude. They EXPECT more. Many times I can please them, but then again, with my lack of traditional convention, there are slip ups.
You reap what you sow, even in today’s digital world. So if am to leave the country, on my birthday, no less, how can I expect to be remembered? Doesn’t much appear as if I care, why else leave during this time of traditional togetherness?
The older I become, the more I recognize the value in these time honored adages, but even now I sometimes can’t understand why I can’t have my cake and eat it too. Maybe I’m still from the era where women thought they could do, and have, it all.
And so, I to ponder the yin and yang of everyday life.
Caught between the yes and the no, the give and the take, the struggle that represents the silly human condition.
Just when I think I have it all figured out, I find I’m looking at the doughnut, (not the hole) or maybe not looking at the (whole) doughnut, or maybe, (holy) cow, you’ve really got a (hold) on me, (musical reference duly noted).
Maybe the best thing is to keep it simple, and just be thankful for family, whatever the travels or travails.










