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Family Matters: The First of a 3-Part Series

Family Matters: The First of a 3-Part Series

Family is understandably important, but they do not always understand their importance.

As the saying goes, “You can’t live with them, and you can’t live without them.”

Well, you could. But your life would be much less, ah colorful.

Spending the last month traveling abroad in search of sharing boleros and seeking music, during the holiday season, I not only abandoned my family, (while seeking other family members, I might add) but was ofttimes vacationing with everyone else’s family. Ay, Dios mio!

To add fuel to the proverbial yuletide fire, I spent Christmas, New Year’s Eve AND my birthday while traveling abroad. And although I was taken out for a sumptuous dinner in Vigo, Spain,  by a dear friend (and her son, naturally), I returned home to a conspicuous lack of birthday phone messages by a couple of family members.

Oh let me pause for just a moment to recollect what a free spirit I am. My unfettered pop philosophy is that once you are connected to a person, you’ve no need to call them on a regular basis.

If you speak with them once a month, or only once in your lifetime, you are always connected in spirit. This works quite well in theory, but if everyone doesn’t have the same perspective, what then?

My closest friends have all experienced this free flowing concept that works well for me, and they still maintain their love and  understanding for who I am. Those who don’t understand, well I fret about it a lot, then try my best to explain this theory.  I realize that it must be trying at times to others.

Family Matters

Some family members also have a hard time adjusting to this laissez faire attitude. They EXPECT more. Many times I can please them, but then again, with my lack of traditional convention, there are slip ups.

You reap what you sow, even in today’s digital world. So if am to leave the country, on my birthday, no less, how can I expect to be remembered? Doesn’t much appear as if I care, why else leave during this time of traditional togetherness?

The older I become, the more I recognize the value in these time honored adages, but even now I sometimes can’t understand why I can’t have my cake and eat it too. Maybe I’m still from the era where women thought they could do, and have, it all.

And so, I to ponder the yin and yang of everyday life.

Caught between the yes and the no, the give and the take, the struggle that represents the silly human condition.

Just when I think I have it all figured out, I find I’m looking at the doughnut, (not the hole) or maybe not looking at the (whole) doughnut, or maybe, (holy) cow, you’ve really got a  (hold) on me, (musical reference duly noted).

Maybe the best thing is to keep it simple, and just be thankful for family, whatever the travels or travails.

 

 

 

 

Following the Path

Following the Path

Now back at home after a long trip, I recall that a peripatetic life suits me.

My artistic friends that I visit while traveling, strengthen, comfort and guide me. There is a parallel to our paths. The parallel is that we exist in this world as  lifelong, passionate students of art and music.

There is a ceaseless quest for understanding the world, because we are conduits of the sentiments in the world. As my brother David put it so succinctly, “The business of an artist is to know.”

I also believe, the function of an artist is to be able to express. Artists express the joy and pain that life brings in their work.

Music is my meditation. It feels like breathing; without it, I would not last.

The rhythm of an artist’s practice comforts strengthens and guides. My friends, many of them artists whom I have visited along this travel, provide safe havens for long discussions regarding this ephemeral path. There were also friends made during travels that inspired me with their passion and dedication to the art of travel.  Creative living is their muse.

While sitting with around a table on New Year’s Eve at a Thai restaurant, filled with families, people of ages 8 to 53, New Year’s resolutions were exchanged. The table was filled with college students, medical administrators, restauranteurs, children and me.  My musician friend was playing at a private party, and we would visit later, in the wee hours of the morning.

Some wishes were very specific.

“I wish to travel more this year.”

Another, “I wish to return back home.”

And for myself, I wish to be able to have so much love, that it is  transformational. Through my art, this happens.


Culture Shock

Culture Shock

Electric grids in Europe.

Alexander Graham Bell wrote,  “When one door closes, another door opens.”

Well, let me tell you, when in Europe, it doesn’t happen that way. Doors fail to open, or more to the point, they open the wrong direction. They often open toward the inside of a space, no matter what lies within or how large. American doors, on the other hand, open the correct, or opposite direction.

Europeans also have dim hallways. Since I can no longer read without glasses, there were times I had to grope for my belongings, blind and tentative. Lights in Europe come on as one approaches a hallway, or darkened area. All is dormant until light sensitive timers turn on. Europeans are great at conserving electricity; it is very expensive abroad.

This conservative approach works to test the patience of Americans (namely me), and makes us well aware of the land of plenty from which we come. (I do intend to assess however, my home lighting needs, now that I have returned home. American conservation is finally in vogue.)

Then, there are the differences in electrical plugs and systems. There are as many different kinds of plugs, as there are in a large box of Godiva chocolates. The four countries I traveled through (England, The Netherlands, France and Spain) had three different types of electrical plugs. Planner that I am, my trip beforehand to Austin’s REI proved fruitless. I purchased a heavy-duty all-purpose technicolor dream adaptor for persons with wanderlust, and it turned out to be out of date, and therefore non-functional. While traveling abroad, there are also additional assortments of adaptors, at hotels and hardware stores to add to whatever adaptor and electrical devices a traveler might bring. Good luck finding yours. I never did.

Different types of electrical generation and distributions exist in the US and abroad,

110 DC (American) versus 220 AC (European). What is relevant here is what happens when you mix the two systems, in an appliance that cannot adjust the current properly through the adaptors. Receiving a phone call one night, while heating up a heat adjustable lo/hi curling iron with DC current and AC adaptor, produced disastrous results. After leaving the iron plugged in while speaking with a Floridian friend, I later held it over my head upon returning. Steam was present for the first time that I’d ever noticed. I thought it a little unusual, but filled with thoughts of my overseas holiday talk, dismissed it.

Even when I noticed the cap falling off the end of the iron, I failed to recognize the growing warning signals. I picked up the cap from the floor and took a look. Being somewhat blind without glasses (see the above), I failed to notice the reason behind the fallen cap. It had melted off of the iron.

The final blow was taking a piece of my hair, (luckily in the center of my head, away from my skin), and applying the iron. An immediate sizzling sound with a scent of burnt hair made me jump! What remained was fried hair glued permanently to the iron, and a smelly head for a few days. No worries, the rest of me was intact!

Last Leg

Last Leg

Today is a long train ride, over 400 miles from Nice, France to Barcelona, Spain. Train departs at 1155 and arrives by 2200 (10 pm).

Now that I’m well into this journey, I can write, that while I haven’t spent much time singing in public, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking, talking about and considering music. This exploration has been at the core of these travels. There has also been an effort to simply report each day’s events, thus most posts reflect the holidays and traveling. You may also notice one blog, “Interpersonal Travels,” suggests, there are many kinds of journeys.

During the winter months, music takes a back seat in England and Europe. Families go on holiday, and old traditions are revisited. While I had intended to perform should an opportunity arise, I quickly revised my expectations to fit the holiday season. I have followed the path of least resistance, and have tried to keep flexible as to what options have been presented.

For the moment, let’s leave this train, figuratively for a couple of internal observations. For although outside appearance may suggest otherwise, I dedicate much work to the internal experience. First, there is a consistent insistence, on turning over and examining perspectives in order to maintain this “can do” attitude, as well as learn about the world. Later this information is communicated through song. Like a buoy, it is a way I accomplish what I do in all things, including music.

Secondly, through travel, I open up to a change in approach towards this musical life. I needed a break from the traditional approach of learning music. Daily practice is my bread and butter, but talking to the Nigerian cab driver in London, left me feeling enlightened and eager to integrate with other cultures. What are their ideas on music? Leaving what I love, then returning, helps me to return to Austin with fresh perspective, clarity, and knowledge. I am ready in 2012 to share my love of song, once more.

 

 

For Sharon, Museum Buddy

For Sharon, Museum Buddy

  While we were in London, my sweetheart and I went to the National Museum of London where I fell in love with several Dutch paintings from the 17th century.

My absolute favorite was by an unknown Flemish painter, “Cognoscenti in a Room Hung with Pictures.”  This painting filled a canvas with a dark study that held more than 30 well-known paintings on the wall. Each painting was miniscule, but exact, and each brushstroke held precision, luminescence and reflection. I do not pretend to be very knowledgeable about paintings, but I know what I like.

Other treasures were several of Van Gogh’s works. Each of his paintings reminds me of dancing. They are filled with movement. His famous painting of sunflowers, of which there are four, look like strange snakes swaying out of a vase; I have a vivid imagination. As we enjoyed these paintings, we met a man who comes to the museum to see Van Gogh paintings on a regular basis. He told us he has been coming to see these Van Gogh works for years, and never grows tired of it. He sees something different each time he comes.

Outside of the museum was Trafalgar Square, where one could get a feel of the British self-image and history of the Napoleonic Wars. There were various commanders on horses scattered all over the place, the primary commander being Lord Admiral Nelson, who is given the main credit for defeating the French.

I also sang that  day, but because of the holidays abounding, there was little or no time to organize a musical event. I’ve decided that this part of the trip is about taking a break from routine, even music.

 

 

London Treasure Hunt

London Treasure Hunt

While traveling through Europe over the past month, in London I saw the synagogue where my sweetheart’s, great- grandfather and great-great grandfather may have attended. I visited the East End of London, where his great- grandfather rolled cigars, and had a knowledgeable cabbie show us a place nearby known as the “Tobacco Dock.”

Along the East End, in the late 1800s, where industry, the River Thames, and poverty lay, we found pubs and places where the present inhabitants say there are spirits from the past.

We saw the London Tower where criminals were hung, and Jack the Ripper frequented. And we saw where Captain Kidd had his ale, and learned that each manner of brick laying in London, reveals when a building was constructed.

AND, finally ate my first fish ‘n’ chips!

Interpersonal Travels

Interpersonal Travels

We were in a foreign land, together 24/7, no break. Months had passed since we’d had quality time together, and it was a challenging adjustment. Nonstop togetherness can be like consuming a bag of thin mints without regard to moderation; too much of a good thing. I was beginning to feel an ache in my lower abdomen. Was this a tummy ache or the beginning of an ulcer?

Over the past 28 years, we’d developed a few ways to get us through the rough patches. A Mexican and a Jew, both of us born with an unlimited supply of strong opinions, both relishing giving these opinions to others. However, the old adage “opposites attract” sometimes take the form of  “you say potato, I say potatoe”. Our fate, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, is to always be on the edge of a passionate discussion. Okay, maybe even an argument. Rules for conflict resolution are kept to a minimum.

In my opinion, here are the rules:

Rule No 1: Identify the conflict

Rule No 2: Call timeout (Gains objectivity, acknowledges/ identifies feelings.)

Rule No 3: Discuss the conflict (Ideas are exchanged to work towards a civilized end.)

Well, as you might guess, a conflict was brewing during our recent travels. To further complicate matters, dinner was being made in a couple of hours by our gracious hosts. After a brief snarl, we decided to go straight to Rule No. 3, while the embers of mental anguish were still hot to the touch.

I made the suggestion that since I had to put on makeup and dry my hair, and he had previously expressed a desire to soak in a hot tub, (bathroom providing a nice quiet space away from prying ears), we both agreed. I entered the bathroom moments after my sweetheart entered the tub. Having a hold on my electric curling iron, and seeing his vunerable body in the tub was just too much for me.

“Would you care to plug this in for me?” I asked with a smile on my face. “Let me bring you an extension cord dear.” We began our conflict resolution with humor, our mediator.

Afterwards: This posting is based upon actual events. Both parties maintain a different version of this event, and are alive today to share their version upon request.

 

 

 

Mortal on Vacation; Drive Carefully!

Mortal on Vacation; Drive Carefully!

Cathedral in Wells, England

Watching a jogger go by my window makes me realize how much work it takes to vacate.Vacation means, NEW sights, NO routine, CHAOS in travel and tons of uncertainty; If this were a regular job, I’d almost be ready for a vacation from my vacation!

On the bright side, it’s a surefire way to change your perceptions on just about everything. Driving in a car on the wrong side of the road, while hitting the curb every few miles (no kidding) leaves me to philosophizing that perhaps I am too attached to life to enjoy the thrill of road traveling in England. Today is NOT a good day to die!

Therefore, I lessen my driving pursuits, and visit a cathedral. The place is in Wells, the smallest cathedral city in England (outside of the city of London).  Parts of this cathedral date back to the 10th century. On its western front are almost 300 medieval statues, one of the best collections in Europe. The size of the cathedral dwarfs its surroundings, and Wells is already a virtual postage stamp of a place.

The scissor arches and Wells clock inside the cathedral inspire thoughts on spirituality; close family relative of immortality.The arches are simple and elegant sweeping the interior of the cathedral toward the sky. The eyes naturally move upward, following the contours.

The clock is astronomical predating Copernicus, a Polish astronomer and mathematician.What is interesting about this 14th century medieval gem is upon the hour, when the clock strikes, sun and moon images revolve around a fixed earth, on the clock face, while nights and horses emerge from the interior of the body of the clock, dance on a circular platform, and then recede back inside.

Continuing my reflection on immortality, I consider my last trip, Puerto Rico, where I came across yet another church, San Jose Church, the oldest church established in North America, 16th century, where Ponce de Leon attended. This famous seeker of the Fountain of Youth fell ill in Florida while searching for his dream. He died in San Juan, Puerto Rico from an infection that developed as a result.

On the other hand, 490 years later, someone is still writing about him. Maybe he did find immortality, hopefully, we will learn to drive on this bucolic road.

Recipe for a Holiday

Recipe for a Holiday

In England, there are dinners, and then, there are dinners. One can dine with the Queen of England (no, I’m not on that list), one can have dinner in a pub, one can even have dinner at McDonalds. Last night, I had the best of all dinners, with good friends; the Camps.  It is after all, the holidays.

The Camp Family is a great mixture of English and American. Although the family lives in England, one member was a neighbor of mine growing up in Houston, Texas. It’s funny to think that 40 years later, I am visiting someone from my old neighborhood, in the middle of London.

Each person contributed something for dinner, making it kind of a holiday soul food. I washed and peeled the potatoes, Katherine made the dessert, Claire brought forth Chateau Cantemerle 2000, Lois made the potato dish, etcetera.

There were several generations present, people with diverse occupations and old and new friends gathered, all making for a wide-ranging discourse throughout the night.

But to be quite frank, I would love to know what kind of dinner are YOU having this holiday season? Are you with friends, family, a couple of great dogs, an old lover? Tell you what — I will include a recipe here, put this pot on to boil and perhaps, I’ll receive one from you as well. In the meantime, have a very Merry Christmas, Happy Chanukah y Feliz Año Nuevo.

Holiday Recipe straight from the BBC.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/food/recipes/mulledwine_8156


 

 

 

Oh Happy Day

Oh Happy Day

7 plus hours and I’ll be in London.7+!

This “quick” trip is so fast, the pilot relays over the loudspeaker, that we are being forced to stay on the tarmac for an additional 20 minutes. Apparently there is a “quiet zone” in London, and should we arrive early or we will be in violation of making too much noise flying into London.

Yes, I’m going on a trip, a MEGA trip. Yes, I’m going to go for one month, 31 days, 744 hours, 44640 minutes or 2678400 seconds. I’ll be traveling first in the UK, arriving in London at 650 am.  What next?

 

Dec 10

Where it all begins

Check out this blog, and we’ll both stay tuned. Oh happy day.